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How To Manage Stress and Reduce Anxiety - The Real Basic Steps

Tip #1: STOP!

What do you do when you are stressed? Eat? Shop? Isolate? Vent?

Everyone has different coping mechanisms when it comes to managing stress and anxiety. Some seemingly work so well that we become dependent on them. Some are constructive, some are not. Some do alleviate the stress, some only bury and facilitate stress accumulation.

How do you know yours is really helping? The key is to notice if you give yourself a pause, the moment you notice any form of anxiety.


Mentally allow yourself to pause everything else and refocus on yourself, on how you feel. In our coaching method, we call it โ€œActive Experienceโ€. Allow yourself to fully explore all the thoughts, feelings and emotions that arise in this very moment.

๐‘ซ๐’๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’•๐’“๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’„๐’‰๐’‚๐’”๐’† ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’‚๐’˜๐’‚๐’š, ๐’…๐’๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’•๐’“๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’‰๐’Š๐’…๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’™๐’Š๐’†๐’•๐’š, ๐’…๐’๐’โ€™๐’• ๐’•๐’“๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’“๐’–๐’ ๐’‚๐’˜๐’‚๐’š ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”. ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’† ๐’Ž๐’๐’“๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’•๐’“๐’š, ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’‰๐’‚๐’“๐’…๐’†๐’“ ๐’Š๐’• ๐’˜๐’Š๐’๐’ ๐’ƒ๐’† ๐’•๐’ ๐’Ž๐’‚๐’๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’†, ๐’๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†.

Stop everything else, stop letting your external environment further interfere with your inner world and listen to your body, your breath, your thoughts.

Tip #2: Breathe

Take a conscious breath.

Conscious breathing is a way to listen to your body.

Is any part of you feeling stressed, anxious and unheard? You may be nailing that important meeting suppressing your own feelings. But the feelings will linger and accumulate until you address it properly.

After โ€œstoppingโ€ everything external (Tip #1), bring yourself back to your breath. ๐‘ต๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’„๐’† ๐’‰๐’๐’˜ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’‰ ๐’„๐’‚๐’๐’Ž๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…. ๐‘ต๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’„๐’† ๐’‰๐’๐’˜ ๐’Š๐’• ๐’‚๐’๐’๐’๐’˜๐’” ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’•๐’ ๐’”๐’†๐’‘๐’‚๐’“๐’‚๐’•๐’† ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’˜๐’ ๐’„๐’‰๐’‚๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’„ ๐’Ž๐’Š๐’๐’…. Observe the breath, be fully present for yourself.

Now, you have the space, to choose to see your anxiety and stress in a different light.

Tip #3: Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool. However, it could be deceiving.

Many may disagree with me but I believe gratitude when used inappropriately could create illusion.

I am grateful for a good day yesterday. But I canโ€™t use gratitude for yesterday to cover up how I feel today.

I am truly grateful for the good things in my life, but I canโ€™t use this gratefulness to shield myself from my own stress, anxiety and pain.

It is just as important to be grateful for the part of us which is experiencing stress and anxiety. Without this part, we may not even know how to appreciate joy and peace.

๐‘บ๐’ ๐’˜๐’‰๐’†๐’ ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’ ๐’”๐’•๐’“๐’†๐’”๐’”๐’†๐’… ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’‚๐’๐’™๐’Š๐’๐’–๐’”, ๐’”๐’•๐’๐’‘, ๐’ƒ๐’“๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’‰๐’†, ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’๐’Œ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’Š๐’” ๐’๐’‘๐’‘๐’๐’“๐’•๐’–๐’๐’Š๐’•๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’‘๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’”๐’Š๐’• ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’‡๐’†๐’†๐’๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ๐’”, ๐’•๐’‰๐’‚๐’๐’Œ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’๐’“ ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡-๐’‚๐’˜๐’‚๐’“๐’†๐’๐’†๐’”๐’” ๐’๐’‡ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“ ๐’๐’˜๐’ ๐’•๐’‰๐’๐’–๐’ˆ๐’‰๐’•๐’” ๐’‚๐’๐’… ๐’†๐’Ž๐’๐’•๐’Š๐’๐’๐’”.

When you stop feeling self-conflicted or resenting yourself for how you feel, youโ€™ll become much more connected and resourceful to overcome your own stress in a constructive way.

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